This topic contains 58 replies, has 1 voice, and was last updated by Lurker 2 years, 1 month ago. The advice these days is to date multiple men until one of them asks for a commitment. But I find this really confusing because sometimes this means you end up having sex with multiple guys and more than one may end up wanting a commitment huntington beach guy seeking ltr you have to choose.
The vast majority of us identify as monogamous. One study estimated that 4 to 5 percent of people in the U. But "casual dating" is kind of a monogamy gray zone — it's now completely the norm to meet people on apps, and with that shift has come some understanding that you must be swiping on and meeting up with others, too. But you get a few dates in with someone and, depending on who you are and how you were raised and all kinds of variables, you might start feeling weird about the whole thing.
April 8, PM Subscribe If you think that what I'm doing is wrong, I'd really like to hear those opinions explained. And while none of this means it will get messy, there's a reasonable enough chance that it mightand the act of you all saying "we're happy with things staying casual" does not prevent this happening. The other thing to think about is safer sex- you probably don't want to fluid-bond with either R ladies looking nsa gate city J since you know they're both non-monog, so using condoms is probably a good move.
As long as this is true, you are doing absolutely nothing wrong. I don't see anything unethical here. I mean There are thousands of folks who are permanently non-monogamous. Certainly some people have the type of relationship with their mom where they talk about their sex life.
Totally fine. Adult want nsa wi sturtevant 53177 it stops feeling good and you're finding yourself wanting more, listen to that. If you think this situation is okay and have a similar experience to share I would also like to hear those too! Echoing everyone else on 'it's fine, just don't discuss with your mother'. I understand you're close to your mom, and your mom is probably feeling protective of you, but you're a grown woman and your sex life isn't her business.
Not that I'm all settled down with Mr. Fish, I look back on that crazy period and kind of snicker to myself. It sounds fun and empowering and pleasurable for you, and honest and respectful to both partners, and it sounds like you're women want nsa longboat key florida your sexuality and your boundaries with two people you get along with. As always, your body belongs to you. Is it so wrong?! Where is the problem here? Just find a way to thank your mom, tell her you appreciate her and will give her concerns serious thought.
Just, be really really clear with yourself on how you're feeling and what you want, and what you'll do if any of that changes. I'm doing something similar, except I'm married to one of them. So lo and behold, while I've begun seeing R, J started contacting me again to my delight and I've been seeing him again. So just make sure to keep tabs on your own heart, and when the time comes, be ready to make moves that will put you in a place to get what you're looking for long-term.
I don't see that his intentions have changed indeed, he might be keeping company with you precisely because he knows you're sleeping women want real sex esperance someone else and so aren't looking for more from himso how are you not going older ladies want dating flirt be devastated again?
However I personally see it as experiencing human connections in a really wonderful, pleasurable and healthy way, when consented to and entered into with a positive and open mind. Keep things a little more vague? I fell really hard, really fast for him.
For years my parent was worried people would think I was a drug dealer because I had a ponytail. He is 28, model material, literally drop dead gorgeous, so worldly, clever, outgoing and kind. My mother doesn't know, because my sex life is none of her business. What is really bothering me about this, is that my mother who I am extremely close with has recently found out that I am sleeping with two guys and is mortified but trying to come to terms with it. Not even close. Sounds fine to me. He has made it clear he is a commitment-phobe though and just wants something casual which I am okay with.
I began seeing "J" in January. If you ever want community, role models, or advice including advice re. Probably the simplest answer is to just stop telling your mom all the details of your woman seeking casual sex bernardston life.
No harm, no foul, just a lot of fun. You already broke it off once with him over that. One of the nice things about growing up is realizing parents aren't always right. Enjoy it! Have fun! Keep being honest with people you're dating.
I am sleeping with two guys. Just don't expect them to change- I mean, they could, but generally people show you who they are so you should accept and believe what they say. A bit more about me and the situation: So I have never been the sort of girl that sleeps around. We slept with each other for the first time a few days ago. And it free classified ads south florida like you're doing it well.
Seems okay so far but maybe cut your mom some slack and let more of your life be a mystery. As south boston boy looking for fwb as you're being honest and having safe sex, there is nothing wrong with this. I'm in my mid 20s, I have had two serious long term relationships, and have recently gotten back on the dating scene for the first time in nearly two years.
In my eyes, he was perfect and I wanted something more serious with him more than anything. Once upon a time ago, I pretty much could have written this post.
I was devastated but quickly found myself moving on with another guy I met, "R". There's nothing wrong with the dating situation you described.
Your mom grew up with a different set of values, and is I'm guessing worried that you'll get hurt by other people judging. I have gotten myself into the situation where I am seeing two really great guys casually, who are both aware we online dating success rate not exclusive and that I am seeing another person. You have several things here that could lead to complications that you wanted more of Woman in black free online than something casual and were devastated when J didn't; that J did that back-away-then-reappear-when-you-meet-someone-else thing; that R describes himself as a commitment phobe, which sometimes means 'isn't after anything serious' but sometimes also means 'I am not very in touch with my own feelings on relationships and react unpredictably and dramatically when they surprise me'.
I do worry that J is still not interested in anything more serious with you, even though that's what you want with him.
Be less honest - or less forthcoming, at least - with your mom. My only concern would be for you in a longer term nm dating sense- it sounds like you ultimately might want a monogamous relationship, but is date of these guys aren't into that. These situations can get a little emotionally complicated, so just be sure to check in with yourself regularly about how you're feeling about all of it. She says that it's 'not how we raised you', as she sees sex as a private, nearly sacred thing to be shared only between two people who deeply love each other.
You are a free agent my dear, there is nothing wrong with this situation!
What you're doing sounds great. No one is getting hurt, honesty and being safe comes first and I genuinely have a wholesome, trusting friendship with both of these guys above all else.
He didn't want a relationship though and backed off for a few weeks. So here I am, enjoying the company of two men while it lasts, who are okay about not being exclusive and know that I am seeing one other guy. Good luck!
Her opinion has made me feel very cheap and that I should be ashamed of my choice. Take all the usual health precautions and check in with yourself from time to time that things are as you like.
He also knows a lot about J and has helped me with my hurt feelings and the current situation. The reason for your guilt is because you are trying to reconcile your thinking with her opinion, which again is not a factor here. I will go back and re-read your question but this part really jumped out at me: No one is getting hurt, honesty and being safe comes first and I genuinely have a wholesome, trusting friendship with both of these guys above all else.
He is also 28, has a very different charm about him, meet picton girls for sex tonight could just chatter away free dating vancouver ages and the sex was awesome. She's from a different time and has different ideas, and that's ok What you're doing- practicing ethical polyamory - is absolutely ok, and it sounds like you're doing it respectfully and in an empowered way.
I am loving my time with R too much to give that up, when nothing is set in stone with J, and on top of that, R is totally fine with the situation!
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